In I-Positions, what is the focus for the therapist?

• A. Using 'I' messages to differentiate self and demonstrate responsible use of 'I' versus demands
• B. Withholding personal statements to remain neutral
• C. The therapist taking sides in conflicts
• D. Ignoring the client's beliefs

Answer: (A)

In I-Positions, the therapist focuses on speaking from their own experience using I statements and clearly signaling personal boundaries. This approach shows a responsible use of the word “I” rather than making demands on the client, and it helps the therapist differentiate their own reactions, needs, and limits from the client’s perspective. By articulating what they notice or feel (for example, “I notice I feel frustrated when interruptions happen,” or “I need some quiet time to think”), the therapist models a respectful, nonjudgmental stance that invites collaboration rather than confrontation. This stance also helps clients see how statements affect others and encourages them to own their own experiences.

Withholding personal statements would undermine the purpose of I-Positions, because neutrality without sharing one’s stance misses the reflective, accountable quality this approach aims for. Taking sides would contradict the idea of modeling balanced communication and boundary-setting. Ignoring the client’s beliefs would erode the trust and understanding that the I-Position stance seeks to cultivate.